The main purpose of this platform is to let people know they're not alone. Whether you want to YAC AT US about it or use solutions and resources from here or other platforms we support you 100%. We do want to get you started though and share some of the tools we use as well as other resources available.
Personality Disorders often take on many misconceptions, a lot of it has to do with misinformation and the lack of information especially when it comes to new studies and research. The best way to be an ally for someone going through a personality disorder or dissociative feelings is to let them know they can talk freely and they will not be judged. Allowing people to be vulnerable and honest in your company can help soothe their anxieties and also help you to understand a little bit more about what they're going through.
As much as we can take words from a screen and say we're going to put them into action, it's the face to face contact that really does the healing. When you're working through your mental illness it's important, to be honest with not only those closest to you but also with yourself. To allow yourself to feel the good, and the bad. The key to this is finding a way to stay grounded and become aware of your symptoms or progression whether it's with a journal or different techniques. This is why it's so important to seek professional help, they can guide you through treatment options to best suit your needs and what you're going through. Not only that, but they can keep a detailed record during sessions to help regulate your treatment as you work through it.
One of the biggest things about personality disorders is how completely disorienting they can feel or look to those on the outside. Which is why really taking note of your surroundings and working on those grounding techniques can be so useful to ease symptoms as they come up and go down. We're not saying you need to wear a name tag that says "I have borderline personality disorder," but when you can, take the opportunity to share your triggers or your take on how it makes you feel and what would be helpful to you when you're experiencing different symptoms. Remember that, people don't read minds. As difficult as it can be to talk about it- if you trust the person you're speaking with, they'd rather hear how they can help instead of watch you go through something you both would feel helpless about. To that - make sure you (this applies to everyone, whether you cope or not) educate yourself on the true, credited facts. Not the stereotypes or Buzzfeed articles. The science, the research, the studies. Borderline Personality Disorder has changed dramatically over the last thirty years and people are not talking enough about that. Take the time to learn about mental illness. It will help you whether you're living with it or around people who are.
If you have mental health questions, feel free to send them to our resident registered counselor through our resource Ask Melissa!
Never be afraid to reach out to us using our YAC AT US platform, we're always here to lend an ear and work together to find resources that best suit you!
We've read through a few articles we think are helpful in finding ways to cope with all different types of Borderline Personality Disorder:
AnxietyBC Visit www.anxietybc.com or call 604- 525-7566 for self-help information and community resources.
BC Partners for Mental Health and Addictions Information Visit www.heretohelp.bc.ca for info sheets and personal stories.
Your Local Crisis Line Crisis lines aren’t only for people in crisis. You can call for information on local services or if you just need someone to talk to. If you are in distress, call 310-6789 (do not add 604, 778 or 250 before the number) 24 hours a day to connect to a BC crisis line, without a wait or busy signal. The crisis lines linked in through 310-6789 have received advanced training in mental health issues and services by members of the BC Partners for Mental Health and Addictions Information.
HealthLink BC Call 811 or visit www.healthlinkbc.ca to access free, non-emergency health information for anyone in your family, including mental health information. Through 811, you can also speak to a registered nurse about symptoms you’re worried about or a pharmacist about medication questions.
1. 20 Unexpected Coping Techniques for People With Borderline Personality Disorder. (2019). The Mighty. Retrieved 6 June 2019, from https://themighty.com/2017/08/coping-strategies-bpd-borderline/
2. Self-care for BPD | Mind, the mental health charity - help for mental health problems. (2019). Mind.org.uk. Retrieved 6 June 2019, from https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/self-care-for-bpd/#.XPiiXFxKhPY
3. Healthy Coping Skills for People With Borderline Personality Disorder. (2019). Verywell Mind. Retrieved 6 June 2019, from https://www.verywellmind.com/coping-skills-borderline-personality-disorder-425412